What is Personal Synthesis?
The amount of knowledge we possess is amazing. You may know about evolution and creation, who invented the light bulb or won at Waterloo, what the capital of Norway is, how to use a computer and drive a car… but how much do you know about yourself and those areas of life that make up your everyday experience? This is the subject of Personal Synthesis. It is not about the world out there, but about us. It can help you develop understanding and skills related to issues such as handling emotions, developing creativity, making decisions (and putting them into practice), overcoming anxiety, coping with problems, communicating effectively, developing constructive relationships and many more. The book provides, in one place, essential knowledge (practical and theoretical) of all the basic areas of human life. They are also organised in a two-dimensional map that shows the relations and connections between them, hence synthesis.
Why Personal Synthesis?
We are all aware that we live in a time of rapid and dramatic changes. As one historian put it, this is a period that ‘breaks the old cycles and the traditional customs of man’[i]. In the past, society played a much greater role in the lives of individuals. Almost every aspect of daily existence was determined by political and social systems, the church, extended family, even neighbours. Life then was more restrictive, less tolerant towards digressions and differences, and often wrong and unfair (at least towards some of its members). Yet, such a situation created a sense of security and predictability. Nowadays, the complex nature of our society, the greater cultural diversity and pluralism of values have increased choice and allowed more freedom, but it has also increased personal responsibility, insecurity, anxiety and confusion.
A recent survey[ii] over decades shows that although we have never had it better, we seem to be less happy. According to the World Health Organization, depression is set to become the world’s most pervasive serious illness by the year 2020 (more widespread than heart disease and cancer). One in four visits to GPs in Britain is already due to some psychologically related problem (the most frequent reason, after flu and cold). Nearly a quarter of a million people try to kill themselves every year in the UK[iii] alone. Alcohol and drug abuse, delinquency and violence are also on the increase. This is not to say that we should try to go back and embrace outdated ideologies and social systems. But, if we wish to move forward, personal knowledge may help us avoid some of the pitfalls on that journey.
This is not, however, the only reason why it can be valuable. Attributes like class, gender, nationality, cultural or religious backgrounds, affluence and status that used to be decisive regarding employment, relationships and other aspects of life, are now losing their significance (rightly so), while personal qualities are becoming more important. We have to rely on ourselves more than ever, so paying attention to our personal development is not a luxury any more, but a necessity.
Despite all that, it is still hard to know where and how to go about it. Probably the most frequent sentence that I have heard working as a counsellor is “If I’d only known”. Our civilisation, focused mainly on the external world, has substantially increased its control and power over the environment (for better or for worse). Much less is done regarding self-knowledge and self-power. Let me try to clarify what I mean.
Numerous pieces of research[iv] conclude that personal and psychological development is much more important to successful life than academic achievement, for example. Yet, in mainstream education there are plenty of opportunities to learn about mathematics, literature, geography, science, history, art and other subjects, but little chance to learn about those things that really matter in life – about ourselves and the ways we can experience and relate to the world around us.
Social institutions (media, political or religious organisations etc.) often seem to have their own agenda, so it is not surprising that their attempts to ‘educate’ us about how to lead our lives are usually met with suspicion.
Speaking to friends or relatives about personal matters, although good in its own right, can be sometimes more confusing than helpful. We often find in these situations that some of them are not interested and are content to follow what the majority do without much reflection, while others come out with very different, sometimes contradictory suggestions or claims.
It is not surprising that counselling is becoming more and more popular, but the majority of counsellors nowadays are committed to being non-committal, ‘passive’ listeners, which is of limited value. A lot of people find that this is simply not enough.
This is why there are an ever increasing number of self-help books around. However, wading through innumerable titles to find good ones can be wearisome indeed. Moreover, they often contain only a few original and useful sentences. No doubt, many of these books can make us feel temporarily better, but that feeling usually quickly wears off and we are back to square one. Even materials that have a real practical value usually deal with one subject, so it is like patching up one hole, while others are opening up. And who has time to read a book or two for every important area of life?
This book is an attempt to overcome this problem and have it all in one place. To achieve that, all the materials are written in a ‘no frills’ way. No stories, anecdotes, counselling practice examples, and other gimmicks. Admittedly, it may be easier to read through a book garnished with such additives, but this is not very helpful. How many times did you enjoy reading a self-help book, but when you tried to apply its wisdom you couldn’t remember much or didn’t know what to do? The materials that really help us learn something practical – those that make a real difference – are usually clear and straightforward (computer or car manuals that are full of stories may be a nice read, but wouldn’t be taken seriously by those who really want to learn about cars or computers). Thus, each area in this book is presented in a concise and clear way, so that you can go through, remember its content and return to it without wasting much time. In other words, only essence is given. Such a style also makes the materials more universal, which means that they can be a valuable tool irrespective of one’s circumstances and personality.
The aim of the book
The main purpose of this book is to help you be more in charge of your life. Knowledge is power, and personal knowledge leads to personal empowerment. This book does not preach nor does it try to sell a particular formula (such as ‘all you need to do is exercise more, or slow down, or cry (laugh, love) more, or recognise that your partner is from a different planet…’). No book can tell you what is good and what is bad for you. There is not a simple magic formula that works for everybody in every situation. What a book like this can do, though, is to assist you in making informed choices for yourself and putting them into practice. So, the aim is not to solve your potential or existing problems, but to empower you to face and deal with life challenges on your own. I do not claim that it can automatically make you eternally happy, successful, rich, or a great lover. You will still be facing ups and downs, frustrations and challenges. However, you will be able to take the place at the helm of your boat and direct it. Personal knowledge can be considered a solid platform that can give you confidence to enter stormy waters.
Moreover, embarking on this journey can make life more interesting – exploring that very complex web of human life has many surprises. It is like having a town map, which makes it easier to get where you want to go and see what you would otherwise miss. This does not mean that a map is always necessary. Sometimes it is more fun just to wander around. But knowing that you won’t get lost can give you the confidence to do so.
How to use the book
The book can be used in several ways. The recommended way is to go systematically through each area in the suggested order. The reason for this is that all of the areas are interrelated (they affect each other), and also some of them rely on others. This does not imply just reading through the book from cover to cover. It is important to remain with one area as long as it is necessary, before moving to another. Such a systematic approach would enable a fully rounded development.
However, if you don’t have time or patience to go through it systematically, or if you have a burning issue that needs to be attended to immediately, you can also start from an area that you are particularly interested in or that is closely related to your problem, and then perhaps expand your reading to surrounding and cross-referenced areas.
You may wonder for how long to remain with one area. Of course, perfecting your knowledge and skills related to any of them can take an entire lifetime; the materials here should be taken only as a foundation, a starting point. I suggest focusing on an area until you develop some confidence and mastery so that you can continue on your own. It is like learning to swim or drive: at one point you need to decide when you can do it without an external support. On average, it should not take more than a week, in many cases less, depending on how much time you can dedicate to your personal development. What is important to remember is that these materials are only a means to an end. And the end is to be fully in charge of your life.
[i] Braudel, F. (1980) On History London: Weidenfeld and Nicolson, p.215
[ii] Ferri, E. at al. (2003) Changing Britain, Changing Lives, London, IoE.
[iii] Deurzen-Smith, E. van (1994) Can Counselling Help? Durham: School of Education, University of Durham, p.19
[iv] See Sprinthall, N. (1980) ‘Psychology for secondary schools: the saber-tooth curriculum revisited’ American Psychologist Issue 35, p.341-342